26 7 / 2012
This is a comment I made in response to an article in HelloGiggles THE FAT-SHAMING OF KATE UPTON; OR WHY I’LL NEVER BUY THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN “THINSPIRATION” AND “PRO-ANA” WEBSITES
There are millions of people starving in the world as we read this article. Millions of people who have to fight for food.
I don’t know if there really are pro-ana websites out there. I don’t know if skinny gossip is really trying to make things less hurtful.
I am a skinny girl. I am made to feel guilty when I don’t eat because it’s unhealthy when really I’m just too lazy to cook.
I don’t think I will ever be a bigger girl. It’s not in my genetics.
But to call someone out for being a bigger girl. For eating. For having fun. That is what breeds discontent.
I read her ‘some changes’ article about how hard it is for skinny girls to be called skinny but the fat girls never get called fat. The only difference between the two is that skinny girls get called skinny to their face while the fat girls get bitched about behind their back and made to feel disgusting.
Why can’t people just accept other people for who they are? Why can’t we all just get a little perspective and realise that it isn’t someone’s size that determines their worth?
For some reason this article just really pissed me off.
I have been told my whole life that I must be skinny because I want to be sexy. And when I gain weight I get called fat when really I look healthy and happy.
Kate Upton has boobs so she must be fat but I don’t have boobs so I must automatically have a complex.
Frankly my dear I don’t give a damn.
You can read the original post about Kate Upton here. I know that linking to SkinnyGossip’s site will just direct traffic to her. But I believe that might actually be beneficial to her. I think she has survived the way she has for so long because she’s been surrounded by people who share the same sentiments. Maybe if some moderate thinking people were to read her stuff and disagree with her she might realise that there is more to life than just hating on the big girls.
I have to admit that reading her posts really made me angry initially. But now I just feel pity for her. She must be going through some intense insecurities to think that the only way that she can feel better about her choices is by justifying it through hating other girls. My heart sank at the some of the comments in the article. ‘I would rather not eat than look like that’? As a gastronome I couldn’t keep reading. I love food too much. I’m lucky that my genetics allows me to eat as much as I can with minimal exercise. I know that. I just wish women started acknowledging that beauty doesn’t exist in a vacuum. Ideals of beauty are subjective. Above all we need to treat each other kindly. So please don’t judge the author of skinnygossip too harshly. She’s going through her own demons. Maybe now that she knows the impact of her words, she’ll be kinder too.